Helping family members make ends meet can come at a cost to Americans own savings and retirement plans
80% of Americans provided financial support to a loved one in the past year, with groceries, housing, and utilities among the most common expenses.
Nearly 1 in 4 Americans have reduced or stopped retirement contributions because of family financial responsibilities.
Experts say helping loved ones is sometimes necessary, but consumers should avoid putting their own long-term financial security at risk whenever possible.
Supporting a loved one financially can be an important way to help family members through a tough time. But for many Americans, that support is becoming a regular part of the household budget and it may be forcing them to put their own financial goals on the back burner.
A new study from My Guide to Retirement found that 80% of Americans provided financial support to a loved one over the past year, with groceries, housing, and utilities among the most common expenses.
For those helping both children and parents, the financial strain can be even greater. Nearly one in four Americans say theyve reduced or stopped contributing to retirement because of family responsibilities, while others have dipped into emergency savings or taken on debt to keep up with expenses.
ConsumerAffairs spoke with Ashley Korpi, Executive Director at My Guide to Retirement, to learn more about the long-term impacts this can have on consumers finances.
The sandwich generation is taking a financial hit
The sandwich generation refers to those who are simultaneously caring for young children and aging relatives. Korpi explained that this group is most impacted financially when caring for extended family members as well as their own families.
One of the biggest obstacles for the sandwich generation is that helping your family can quickly spiral from a temporary expense into an ongoing one, she said.
If cutting back your retirement contributions becomes routine, and those folks depend on it for groceries, housing, or healthcare, youre not only losing the money you saved, but also the time and potential growth of those savings.
Your own savings matter, too
In the name of supporting family, 25% of respondents have skipped contributing to their own savings or retirement accounts. However, Korpi encourages consumers to prioritize their own savings both short- and long-term.
Theres certainly situations where helping a loved one has to take priority at the moment, Korpi said. Maybe theyre dealing with a health emergency, or at risk of losing their housing, like in that sort of situation, most people are going to want to step in and help if they have the means.
The problem is when that behavior is normalized, and you frequently sideline your own financial security to help someone else. Whenever possible, its best to try and keep your emergency savings intact, and contribute enough to your 401(k) so that you can take advantage of employer matching if thats on the table.
Her best piece of advice: Aim for is family support that can be pulled from money youre okay with disappearing, not the money you need for your own financial security.
Think about your retirement
Some of Korpis biggest advice is about saving for retirement, as these decisions can affect more than just your own finances.
For a lot of people, theres a good chance youll end up responsible for helping aging parents, adult children, or other relatives at some point, she said.
If you think thats in the cards for you in the future, its worth having those talks before theres an emergency and decisions have to be made at that moment. Even having a basic idea of what youre able to provide and help with will make those situations easier to handle.
Another tip: Have a portion of retirement income that's guaranteed and predictable, rather than everything depending on how a portfolio performs in a given year.
There are financial tools that can provide guaranteed income to help replace a paycheck in retirement and cover essentials like housing and healthcare, which takes some of the pressure off if you also find yourself needing to help family along the way, Korpi said. It's not the right fit for everyone, but for people juggling their own retirement with supporting others, having that predictable baseline can be one less variable to worry about.
Start retirement planning today
If youre worried about your retirement planning, Korpi encourages consumers to start planning today. Its ultimately never too late to improve your financial wellbeing and retirement outlook.
If you get a late start, you might have to save more aggressively, work more, or redefine what your retirement is going to look like, but doing something is still better than doing nothing, she said.
What I want to hammer home is that you should focus on what you can control moving forward versus what you cant. Theres no retirement time machine available, but the decisions you make now can have lasting impact on the days ahead.
Posted: 2026-08-24 16:14:12
















